How Idealistic Christian Dating Culture Has Screwed Our Chances at Love


Well, kind of like the story of Isaac and Rebecca, when I first meet my future wife, I’ll just know.”

As I read these words on my message inbox, I gulped. The guy at the other end of this exchange was a handsome pastor in training with theological insight to rival Billy Graham’s. A 2016 Boaz if you will. And this is what he wrote me a few weeks before we were supposed to meet for the first time.

The weight of his sentence made my stomach clench into a knot because, buddy, I’m no Rebecca.

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How Christians Should Respond to People Who Doubt


As I scrolled down my News feed this morning, an article titled 6 Things Christians Should Stop Saying to People Who Doubt caught my eye. While a heavy eye roll was my natural reaction to yet another article that seemed to paint Christians in a negative light, I couldn’t resist clicking. As my eyes traveled down the page, the feeling of conviction grew heavier and heavier. Not because it painted Christians in a negative light but because of how valid most of the author’s points were. Needless to say, I was guilty of every single one of them.

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Knowing You’re Loved by God is More Important Than Loving Yourself

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A year ago I wrote a blog post called Why Being Single in My 20’s is the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me. It was a well-received piece about how I committed the third decade of my life to soul searching instead of jumping in and out of relationships like I witnessed many others my age doing. When my piece went viral, I received messages from young people all over the world about how my choice to pursue self-discovery and self-love over being in a relationship inspired them to do the same. I spent my 20’s traveling, chasing dreams and getting to know myself, kind of like Julia Roberts in Eat, Pray, Love minus the age and messy divorce. Continue reading “Knowing You’re Loved by God is More Important Than Loving Yourself”

This Is How Vulnerability Helps You Grow Emotionally


Allowing ourselves to truly experience our emotions is a beautiful thing and is the first step towards becoming a well-rounded and emotionally balanced person.

As simple as it sounds, it’s not common practice. Especially with young people. Somewhere along the way, we were told to plaster on plastic smiles while posing next to a mountain for our profile pictures and pretend that everything was always okay. We were told that we should bury ourselves in the “hustle” or self-medicate with sex and booze until our feelings are stifled to the point we think we don’t need to face them. Yes, dealing with ourselves hurts.

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The 5 Stages Of Realizing He’s Just Not That Into You


We’ve all been there. You meet the seemingly perfect man at somewhere “meaningful” like Whole Foods or OkCupid and now you’ve planned your whole lives together, only to have your perfect fantasy start ripping at the seam. The agony of unrequited like can be quite treacherous so to assure you that you’re not alone, here are the four unavoidable and inevitable stages that we all go through (unless you’re one of the girls that couldn’t care less if a dude likes you or not, which in that case; I salute you strong warrior woman) when we realize; he’s just not that into us.

Stage One: Ignorant Bliss

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Why Being Single In My 20s Was The Best Thing To Ever Happen To Me


If you are a 20-something with 10 different dating apps on your phone and a string of broken relationships packed in a bag on your way to the next one, listen up: I was single for 80 percent of my 20s and I wouldn’t have had it any other way.

I had an abundance of amazing friends, acquaintances and hobbies, but I was the girl who never had a boyfriend.

I’ll spare you the long-winded details, as this post is not meant to be a personal pity party, but it all started in college. I was in a serious relationship from ages 19-22.

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Why You Should Burn Your List Of Qualities You Want In A Perfect Man


Given that Singles Awareness Day is right around the corner, I thought this post would be a transparent look at why so many beautiful, smart and eligible women still find themselves single. Now this isn’t directed toward the women that are single by choice because if that’s the case then go ahead with your bad Beyonce self. This post is for the women who genuinely want to be in a serious and committed relationship but can’t figure out why it isn’t happening for them.

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