The 5 Stages of Realizing They’re Not “The One”

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We’ve all been there.

You meet a seemingly appropriate man or woman somewhere “meaningful” like at Whole Foods or Bible study. Your “meet-cute” could rival those of mid-1990s romantic comedies.

In the span of a whirlwind romance, you’ve planned your whole life together, only to have your fantasies start ripping at the seam when you realize well, you’re both imperfect human beings and maybe this time, you’re not supposed to work the rest of your lives out alongside one another. Perhaps they were the first to realize it.

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How Idealistic Christian Dating Culture Has Screwed Our Chances at Love

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Well, kind of like the story of Isaac and Rebecca, when I first meet my future wife, I’ll just know.”

As I read these words on my message inbox, I gulped. The guy at the other end of this exchange was a handsome pastor in training with theological insight to rival Billy Graham’s. A 2016 Boaz if you will. And this is what he wrote me a few weeks before we were supposed to meet for the first time.

The weight of his sentence made my stomach clench into a knot because, buddy, I’m no Rebecca.

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