What Our Kids Teach Us About God

kelli-mcclintock-wBgAVAGjzFg-unsplashI held my breath as the woman on the other line cleared her throat and began to speak. It was my stepson’s principal calling us about yet another incident of him disrupting his class. What she had to say wasn’t easy to hear, but it was nothing new. For the past few years, our son’s grades, attention span, and respect for authority had been going downhill faster than we could keep up. As she explained how he repeatedly disrespected a teacher and then smirked at the principal when she asked him why he did it, a burst of red hot anger washed over me. How dare he? This kid isn’t a neglected child with no direction. This is a child who has been prayed for, taught the Gospel, regularly taken to church, and affirmed in his talents and standing with Christ throughout his entire life. He is frequently reminded how loved and precious he is to our family and to God. He is the apple of our eye, with every opportunity to thrive and succeed before him. Why doesn’t he see that his rebellion and disrespect only leads to destruction? Why won’t he realize how much his actions are hurting his parents? Does he even care? When I got off the phone and began driving home, I furiously began to mentally construct the lecture I was going to give him when I saw him. As my case against him began to mount, God impressed a simple statement upon my heart that silenced the flame:

“You treat me the same way all the time”

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If You’re Spiritually Bloated, Pour Out.

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Overfed and Fruitless

The struggle to dedicate daily quiet time with Jesus is a common issue among Christians. For most believers juggling jobs, families, and ministries, finding half an hour every morning to feast on the Word, a few minutes to read a Christian article, or a distraction-free commute to play an online sermon can feel like a daunting task. To help alleviate burn out among those in ministry, I frequently heard pastors stress the importance of getting spiritually fed before getting poured out. But I rarely, if ever, heard the inverse of this issue being mentioned, which led me to ponder; is there such a thing as being spiritually overfed?   Continue reading “If You’re Spiritually Bloated, Pour Out.”

Your Identity is in Christ, Not a Relationship Title.

brooke-cagle-170002When it comes to the current state of relationship statuses, we live in a Facebook-fueled era of idolatry. What used to be just single or married has now become: single, in a relationship, engaged, married and everyone’s favorite, it’s complicated. Our relationship statuses, or lack thereof, follow us around like a shadow, eclipsing how we perceive ourselves and how others categorize us. Not only is this prevalent in the world, but it is even present in the church. Continue reading “Your Identity is in Christ, Not a Relationship Title.”

3 Signs You’re in Infatuation, Not Love

photo-1466654813246-3435ccad1b1dIt’s like getting high. To be fair, I’ve never done any hard drugs to know the feeling first hand but I imagine getting high feels like those first few blissful months of a new dating relationship. The nightly conversations that go well into dawn, they’re the first person you think about when you wake up and even their annoying quirks are strangely endearing. The glorification and pursuit of this natural high makes millions of dollars at the box office, earns billions via dating apps and even has it’s own holiday. But before the beautiful, four-letter L word starts forming in your mind, ask yourself – is this love or just infatuation? In most cases, it’s the latter. Continue reading “3 Signs You’re in Infatuation, Not Love”

The 5 Stages of Realizing They’re Not “The One”

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We’ve all been there.

You meet a seemingly appropriate man or woman somewhere “meaningful” like at Whole Foods or Bible study. Your “meet-cute” could rival those of mid-1990s romantic comedies.

In the span of a whirlwind romance, you’ve planned your whole life together, only to have your fantasies start ripping at the seam when you realize well, you’re both imperfect human beings and maybe this time, you’re not supposed to work the rest of your lives out alongside one another. Perhaps they were the first to realize it.

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How Idealistic Christian Dating Culture Has Screwed Our Chances at Love

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Well, kind of like the story of Isaac and Rebecca, when I first meet my future wife, I’ll just know.”

As I read these words on my message inbox, I gulped. The guy at the other end of this exchange was a handsome pastor in training with theological insight to rival Billy Graham’s. A 2016 Boaz if you will. And this is what he wrote me a few weeks before we were supposed to meet for the first time.

The weight of his sentence made my stomach clench into a knot because, buddy, I’m no Rebecca.

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How Christians Should Respond to People Who Doubt

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As I scrolled down my News feed this morning, an article titled 6 Things Christians Should Stop Saying to People Who Doubt caught my eye. While a heavy eye roll was my natural reaction to yet another article that seemed to paint Christians in a negative light, I couldn’t resist clicking. As my eyes traveled down the page, the feeling of conviction grew heavier and heavier. Not because it painted Christians in a negative light but because of how valid most of the author’s points were. Needless to say, I was guilty of every single one of them.

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